Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoes revenge and dares to forgive an injury.
-Edwin H Chapin
Are you troubled by something that happened at work in your past?
Are you enslaved and incapacitated by lingering thoughts of revulsion, touchiness, and animosity towards your boss or peers, bit by bit, literally bloating your head?
Why we all care so much about what other people think of us? Why their acuities have reflexively encompassed every facet of our being?
Just remember one thing, in corporate ecosphere, oppressive behaviour comes in all forms. Subjective vindication is much complex and pervasive sensation in otherwise cramped corporate power corridors. At some point in our career, we all have inadvertently stumbled upon such caustic power-mines. Regrettably, it materializes more frequently as we climb up the ladder.
Yet, whether we think about it consciously or not, one important question continues to stay alive beneath such experiences: How one should react to such methodically premeditated career assaults? Continue reading
“An appeaser is one who feeds a crocodile, hoping it will eat him last.”
Last week at Jaipur, I was conducting a program on Cultural Transformation for the leadership team of a conservatively managed large Indian enterprise. Late evening at the terrace of that heritage resort, while atmosphere was festive and the air was curried with the aroma of local culinary, I was quietly staring out at the majesty of the dimly illuminated facade of the hypnotic Amber fort at far side of the road. Abruptly, one contemplative looking elderly participant startled me with an innocent question, “Sir, have you experienced a bad boss?” And I told him “Unfortunately not, but counselled many who have. Not just few skeletons, but entire gallimaufry of them.”
Let me ask you the same question, “Do you think you have ever experienced a bad boss in your career?” If yes, please join the club!
A lot has been written about the theme over the last couple of decades. What is clear with most of the dissecting discussions in the literature is one: To be cautiously insightful in dealing with such a matter. I am sure there is a lot to be learned from all the works. But I have a radically diverse recommendation and if nothing else, I would want young professionals to learn to stand for their convictions. Continue reading
Does your room really have a view,
Or even a window to look through?
All I want is for you to look inside of you.
Don’t be afraid to walk through the door.
Believe it or not, you’ve opened it.
– Chris Cormack
(Mind Moon Circle Quarterly, Autumn 1992, pp.21)
Can you forgive your wrongdoers?
By and large, we find it so demanding to muster up earnest compassion for those who have wronged us. In last three decades of my successful professional passage, I have also witnessed individuals who have been vindictive towards me and others…compulsively malicious in enduring disproportionate harm. My perpetrators were insatiable, venomous, and sadistic. They insentiently exuded enormous deceitful Ego. Undeniably, it used to trouble me when they did it, but retrospectively, I just find it pitiable. Probably that was uglier manifestation of their truncated self-esteem and self-absorbed fragile character. No one ever goes looking for cantankerous dynamics in the structured corporate world. Nevertheless, it happens all the time and more so as you climb up the ladder. But one important question underlies our experiences (whether we think about it consciously or not ) : How we react to dejection? Continue reading